Agree to Disagree

What happened to “We can agree to disagree”?

Once upon a time, we could have heated debates at the dinner table, challenge each other’s ideas, argue passionately—and then move on.

Not anymore.

Now, a difference of opinion feels like a declaration of war. A conversation feels like a battlefield. Friendships unravel over politics. Family members stop speaking over beliefs. Everything is personal. Everything is a test of loyalty.

When did we decide that to disagree means to divide?

We used to be able to hold contradictions—to love someone while not agreeing with everything they think. To respect someone whose worldview isn’t the same as ours.

But somewhere along the way, that changed.

Now, we pick sides and dig in.
Now, we assume the worst in people we disagree with.
Now, we surround ourselves only with those who think like us.

And the irony? We say we want unity. We say we want to fix what’s broken.

But we won’t even sit at the same table.

What if the real test of a strong society isn’t whether we all agree—but whether we can disagree and still move forward together?

Because if we can’t even do that—where does that leave us?